What does one do when they are told there is only one option? Do you decide that’s it? Do you look outside the box and seek answers to clearly understand why someone would only offer one option?
I am not certain why, maybe a result of past childhood experiences of having only one choice without the ability to be part of the decision, but I tend to ask “why” on things I do not understand. Why does it have to be one way? Is there not a compromising option resulting in the same outcome or possible better outcome?
There are a few things I am facing where I am asked to do something in which I am not comfortable complying to. I possibly come across as challenging because I ask a lot of questions and do not follow the norm of accepting and doing what “everyone else is doing”. I am researching to find answers in order to better understand. Yet, if a person would seriously take a look at who I am as a person, they would see the inquisitive person in me wanting to understand versus challenge them.
To conform and accept everything in life would be that of a passive person, living a life of pleasing others without tending and caring for oneself. Yet, there is a balance when one is able to voice their opinion, be direct when you see something that is wrong, speak up when you disagree, and ask questions when you have a need to understand. One can be passive and caring while also being assertive. In today’s culture, is it really necessary that we accept everything we are told as absolute truth with no other alternate? If so, we are allowing others to manipulate us into believing that everything they say and do is of perfection, and worth adhering to with no option to question.
As I go through the process of reflecting and understanding, I am less fearful of being true to myself. I choose to not run with the bulls because I opt to not get hurt. It is not always easy to swim upstream, yet the rewards allow me to be honest with whom I am as a person. What I have learned, that although some situations there might not be an alternate option, there is peace when I have the freedom to take the time to research, discuss and evaluate.
Choose to be fearless, with transparency while embracing life, will allow you to fly with your wings spread wide. Enjoy the flight of life.